大家好，我是布咚兔，今天我给大家聊一聊什么叫情绪管理，情绪管理他能影响了女人的终身幸福，很多粉丝留言说，布咚兔这个道理我都懂，但是要做到很难，当我的情绪发作起来呀，就是那么一秒钟的事情，怎么样才能控制好它呢？我现在跟大家分享一个故事，这个女主角叫兰姐，她在20岁出头就结婚了，老公当时还是个穷小子，由于兰姐很爱他的老公，不顾家人的反对，选择跟老公离家出走了，在婚后的几年里他们相继生出了2个宝宝，兰姐呢！也理所当然的，在家做起了贤妻良母，照顾公婆照顾孩子，又是当爹又是当妈的，也许是兰姐的付出上天都看到感动了，他老公也在前两年突然的发家了，他们终于放上了富裕的生活，可谓是黄天不负有心人吧，可好景不长，兰姐再一次买菜的路上亲眼看见老公带着一个漂亮的姑娘去了五星级宾馆，她在心里安慰自己是他想多了，可她的脚步却抬不起来，她在宾馆的门口足足等了5个小时，当他老公和小三出现在她面前时，兰姐清清楚楚的听见小三撒娇的叫着自己的老公为老公，当她老公看到兰姐时，兰姐没有说话，而是默默的转身走了，这时候她老公追了出去，跟他解释，跟他道歉，兰姐什么也没说。只是在第二天收拾行李来了一场说走就走的旅行，没有告诉任何人她去了哪里，电话也是关机。当一个月他在回来的时候，听婆婆说，小三上门找她老公逼他离婚，最后她老公被逼的忍不了，主动提出要结束这段婚外情。其实说到这里我们就能清楚地发现，兰姐在知道这件事的时候，没有吵没有闹，反而他的行为让他老公选择不离开他。而小三的吵和闹却让她老公选择了回归家庭，

其实男人和女人的搭配，就是一种药引，有些男人搭配一个心情不好的女人，就容易催生成渣男体质，但是当他遇到了有智慧的女人，男人的性情也会得到改善，说白了还是那句老话，男人是需要调教引导的，但是那种调教呢，不是当面的交谈，也不是自己撸起袖子就干，而是我们用女人的智慧润物细无声的，悄无声息的发挥你的情绪引导，可能大家都有看过亲爱的客栈，在节目里面呢，刘涛和王珂有没有吵过架？王珂说了十年一次都没有吵过，然后又说这十年里面呢，刘涛对他的影响很大，但是刘涛从来没有很强势的去管他，而是用润物细无声的方式屈影响他生活态度，后来王珂举了一个例子，他说在他生意失意。那段时间，当合伙人吵架，天天吵到半夜，那时候刘涛还怀着孕呢，有一天炒完了，刘涛挺着个大肚子过去和她心平气和的聊天，让他放下情绪和争执，好好的和对方沟通，好好的解决生意上的事情，不要烦躁，                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              我真的不想看到你们之间闹成这样子，刘涛的这种稳定的情绪态度，

Wang Ke recalled that he felt that Liu Tao's emotional attitude was worth learning from for a lifetime. Just like Kan Qingzi and Ji Lingchen, you see in the end they still separated)

当一个女人始终处于稳定的情绪之中，男人必将对你刮目相看，男人喜欢女人小可爱的一面，但是他们更讨厌的是女人的情绪化，对于情绪化的女人，男人会怎么想呢？他觉得在和一个女人交往的时候

他一定会密切的观察和评估，假如这个女人经常的激动和焦虑，动不动就乱发脾气，即便长得再好看，这个男人也忍不了多久，因为她一旦想到今后要跟你结婚，他每天回家的气氛都是如此的压抑，99%的男人都会打退堂鼓的，对于成熟男人来说，相处的舒适度一定是第一位的，不过那有很多人能意识到自己的情绪问题

You Don't know what kind of Aura you belong to. In fact, we can start from self-evaluation to understand ourselves. What kind of Aura will you let him out? This can be seen in the small details that people give you when you talk to them, such as whether they smile or frown habitually when you talk to them, trying to get closer to you, or do you point your toes out as if you're about to walk away, or do you lean toward each other as you communicate? Just holding you or far away from you

I remember the head of the Company I used to work for was a very capable person, but his subordinates often left and the team was unstable. Later, at the company party, I gradually found the clue, no matter whether it was taking a bus or having a meal, or going out for group construction or karaoke, the seats on both sides of his seat were always empty, because no one was willing to sit next to him. Everyone hid far away, and the atmosphere was very awkward, this means that the emotional experience that he usually brings to others is very bad. His aura is so strong that no one wants to approach him. We can observe from these small details first, and slowly understand the type of aura that we have in our lives, whether we will bring this kind of depressed atmosphere to each other in the middle of life

And after that? So I'm going to give you a very useful technique, which is to make a conscious effort to observe your own emotions, and when two people are fighting, you find that the more you talk about it, the angrier you get, or if the more the other party talks, the more angry you get, you can immediately change your mind and think about whether it's me who is giving out negative energy. During an argument, ah, each other's emotional language is ladder-like, that is, you and I say, do not want to climb, and then rise, this time as long as one of the parties can decisive system, can accept the rapid pursuit of negative emotions

The second point is to make a conscious effort to record the course of our arguments. When we are in an emotional state, we don't realize that we are in an emotional state. In fact, we are in an emotional state at this time, so when others say love you calm down a bit, you will think I am very calm ah, I am in a calm to tell you ah, but you really very calm? Not Necessarily

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