I remember reading an article about how loving your mother is a great contribution to your children. There was a desperate and heart-wrenching comment at the back: this kind of article is invisible to dads!
I would like to say that the whole society and culture still have more requirements for moms than dads, and most importantly, these requirements are basically fully recognized by moms.Therefore, since there were children, these women, who could have done something, began to fall into one pit after another.
The first is the parenting knowledge pit.
When they are pregnant with a child, most expectant mothers have already begun to read and learn, but babies find that the knowledge is not very useful, and there are always countless things that are not mentioned in the book, or are said but inconsistent.Should feedings be on demand or on time? When to train for bowel movements? Is it better to learn English earlier or later?
Who's right? What should we do? Anxiety and conflict tore at each other.
Then there's the child discipline pit.
When children are older, education becomes the only issue for mothers.
Children need a stable environment and should never argue with other family members. Multi-dimensional stimulation is good for neurodevelopment, and various early childhood classes are optional Meet a good teacher can maximize learning initiative, be sure to ask for more; adolescent children will provoke adults, but a good mother will not be angry.
The problem of family education that accompanies life is like a small scene, a small detail, and needs to be dealt with correctly forever.Every mistake can "miss" the child for life.
Why not a counselor? Why don't you understand education? I am tired.Guilt and exhaustion alternately play.
Finally, the equilibrium development pit.
If you stay home full-time with your kids, other people will suggest you find something else to do to balance your life. If you already have a job and are struggling with family and kids, another voice will say you need to reschedule If couples have problems, older aunts say, “Look at the children, give in!” And when children don't develop well, experts say, “Focus on the relationship first, and the children are the second order.”.
Finally, I finally found the criteria for a good mother: 1. The gentle wind and rain; 2. Love everywhere; 3. Taste of elegant style; 4. The feeling of silent dedication; 5. Empathetic empathy; 6. Balanced arrangement of progress and retreat; ......
This mother should only be in heaven!
All of these pits share one common characteristic: the mother does not see, respect and care as an individual, but simply highlights her function as a mother.However, functionality cannot be achieved without the people themselves.
Knowledge, education, balance, and the absence of mothers' awareness of their thoughts, emotions, motivations, behaviors, and other aspects of their lives are not only ineffective, they are also highly disruptive. To put it bluntly, I am in a bad mood, and it is difficult to be peaceful to people; I have very little dry food, and it is impossible to keep supplying the hungry. For a while, but not for a long time.
“No self-love, no other love”, this is often used to persuade the children of Puppy Love, in fact, for everyone. There are many ways to love yourself. Read, think, Relax, seek professional counseling, and most importantly, do it for yourself, not just for your own function.
See yourself and be a good mother.