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Children will always encounter unexpected problems in their growth, and parents can easily cope with this knowledge

2022-09-16 07:10:31


Windmill Medical Education experts remind you: our education must let children out of the“Learned helplessness” state, let children have to deal with all difficulties of self-confidence, so that children will face unexpected problems, try difficulties more consciously, face challenges, overcome obstacles, overcome self.


我们在社会中会遇到各种各样的突发问题,有的人靠着自身的经验顺利解决,有的人看到问题搁浅放置。

Our children are no exception, and there will be two manifestations of problem solving, but if the child encounters a sudden problem, it will always show it:

一、什么是“习得性无助”?

Seligman's experiment showed:

它是一种个体认为事件不依赖自己反应的预期,实质是一种习得的消极动机。

Speaking of children, they are naïve, if there is no good guidance from parents, when encountering sudden problems, due to their lack of social experience, they cannot solve the problem.

In the face of the problem, the child will be increasingly unable to cope with sudden problems, slowly falling into a“Learned helplessness” state.

二、为什么会出现“习得性无助”?

Reminder: the reason for this lies in one person

虽然有句名言叫做“失败是成功之母”,但是我们必须辩证地看待这个问题。

那就是人们对待失败的容忍是有“度”的,超过“度”,就会使人产生无助感,从而悲观失望,灰心丧气。

对于孩子而言,由于身心发展还不够成熟,自我控制和约束的能力相对较弱,如果总是经历失败,那么对事情的兴趣就会大大下降,时间长了就会对出现的问题产生一种无助的状态,更不要提如何面对突发问题了。

由此可见,

不光要从孩子身上找原因,还要从父母身上,问题本身去找应对办法。

做父母的要知道,孩子本身是难以应付突发问题的,这除了身心未成熟外,还有孩子在面对突发问题时,缺乏经验。

三、如何摆脱“习得性无助”?

要想摆脱“习得性无助”状态,加强对突发问题应对能力,我们家长还需要这么做:

,要让孩子从各个方面增加社会经验,为孩子提供自我表现的机会。

在平时教育中,多组织孩子参一加各种各样的活动,如演讲、辩论、表演等,为他们提供表现自我的舞台,扩大交往的范围,增加交流的机会,进而引导孩子超越自我。

, let the child

Failure can be catastrophic for children or adolescents, and opportunities must be created to allow children to enjoy the joy of success.

In specific family education, according to the actual situation, the goal that the child can achieve through hard work should be established, and once the child achieves the goal and experiences the joy of success, he will establish the self-confidence of "I can do it".

It will enable them to concentrate on facing pressure and challenges, suppress the emergence of learned psychological states of helplessness, and slowly children will actively face problems and not be afraid of challenges.

突发问题,基本上属于以前没有遇到过需要我们用经验能力应对解决的问题。

Therefore, in the face of sudden problems,

Parents should let their children develop an optimistic attitude and optimistic self-evaluation in the usual family education, so that children can see their own shortcomings at the same time, they should see their own strengths, they should believe in themselves, do not give up on themselves, and do not complain about others.

In particular, they can take the initiative to adjust their emotions, maintain a balanced mentality, correctly view and deal with contradictions and difficulties in learning and life, and deal with unexpected problems.

in a word

Remind you: we must let children get rid of the state of "learned helplessness" in education, so that children have the self-confidence to cope with all difficulties, so that children will face sudden problems, more consciously try difficulties, face challenges, overcome obstacles, and overcome themselves.

Source: Windmill Medical Experts Online