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Memorial - Uncle

2022-09-16 06:47:16


I walked on the road and cried, the phone was given to my uncle, who was already talking a little unclearly, I told him that he was the best uncle in the world, thank you for his concern and encouragement for me, he was happy for the completion of my graduation thesis.


My uncle, in the crowd, was an inconspicuous old man, not very tall, thin in stature, but his eyes were shining brightly.He lives in Beijing and we're in Chengdu, so we haven't actually spent much time together, but to me, he's the best uncle in the world.


I remember when I first got married, because there was no wedding, even my relatives and friends did not receive gift money, but my uncle insisted on giving us the money.Later, during the Spring Festival, we brought it to my uncle in the form of a New Year red envelope, and then my uncle and aunt entrusted me with a gold necklace on the grounds of sending an extra bonus.From this incident, we can know that my uncle always did not want to lose others in this life.After Zi Ann was born in 2016, I became a stay-at-home mom.This is a real challenge for me, who is extremely enterprising, and it is even more difficult for a new mother to meet a child who is sick.During this period, the phone greeting with my uncle often turned into a complaint, but my uncle did not have the slightest impatience, and encouraged me: "You can put down your career and take care of your family, it is great."The first time he took Zi'an to Beijing was when he was more than a year old, originally to visit his uncle, the result was that the child had a fever on the way, and as soon as he arrived in Beijing, he went to the hospital, herpetic pharyngitis, fortunately self-healing disease, and it didn't take a few days to get better.Although he spent a short time with his uncle, Zi'an often thought about going to see grandpa in Beijing after returning home.Later, as Zi'an grew older, I thought about a new plan for my life and decided to go to graduate school with the encouragement of my husband.The preparation time is limited, and the process is still breastfeeding, and the process is also quite difficult.Knowing my decision, my uncle opened the road of encouragement to me, and every time he called me, he told me that since I had chosen, I would stick to it.After the re-examination, knowing that I was admitted with the first grade in my major, I couldn't wait to tell my uncle the good news, "This is what you deserve", it was such a simple sentence that I almost shed tears.During my graduate studies, I focused on academic research.In addition to accompanying children, taking classes, reading English literature, learning research methods, determining their own research topics, and then collecting data, analyzing data, and writing, my scientific research road has been extremely difficult, and I have also been depressed and tearful.In this process, my uncle shared my scientific research experience with me and told me that the liberal arts are actually difficult, they are doing experiments, and the liberal arts are constructive theories, which is really not easy for people without academic experience.The first time I participated in the China-Australia Tourism Forum, I heard the academic seniors introduce their own research, I thought about what I could do, and I felt that others in various fields had finished their research.But my uncle told me seriously: "Knowledge is endless, these experts are starting from scratch, although you have no academic experience, but you have work experience, according to your work advantages, it is possible to develop new research topics."This is also the case, I started my own parent-child travel project research.The second time I went to Hong Kong to attend an academic conference, I became the person who introduced my research, and my uncle said: "You see, the Long March has begun the first step, and the effort still bears fruit."After submitting papers, rejecting papers, complicated interpersonal relationships, every time I was to my uncle to call communication and consultation advice.


In these two years, my uncle always asked me when to go to Beijing, study, take the baby, Kao IELTS to fill my time, I hope to have a 48-hour rhythm a day, the plan to go to Beijing is also delayed again and again, my heart is very indebted, in addition to telephone greetings, that is, in various holidays to use Jingdong to get home, to buy a variety of food and daily necessities for my uncle.My uncle was very happy every time he received it, but he always said not to buy it in the future, it was more expensive than what they bought in the physical store.Then my uncle's family opened a Sam's Club farther away, and I got a card for him to buy, and I said you see a discount, cheaper than if you buy it in a physical store.And my uncle, either sent us Daoxiangcun pastries or skin care products from Peking Union Medical College Hospital.


元旦前得知叔叔得了甲状腺癌,那晚上我辗转难眠,第二天决定元旦时候去北京陪叔叔过节。担心子安调皮打扰叔叔休息,我们把孩子委托给我父母。子安满满的不开心,他也非常想去,他说:“北京爷爷喜欢我,他想我”。为了不打扰叔叔,我们还是决定单独前往。傍晚到了,叔叔在家已经等候多时了,气色比想象中好一些,但是衰老了不少。小杨姐还是把家收拾的干净整洁。我们故作轻松的聊着近期的经历,也翻看叔叔检查结果。从结果来看,比我们得知的消息还要严重,但是叔叔还蛮乐观,并没有多少恐惧。不知道为什么,我忽然有要给叔叔谈话录音的想法,一方面想记录下这个科学家的一生,也希望以后拿给孩子们听北京爷爷成长奋斗的经历。录音我没有告诉叔叔,我不知道这样做究竟有没有意义,但是那个当下,这是我觉得为叔叔能做的最好的事情。通过叔叔的回顾,我对这位凡事感恩的科学家更为起敬。若是我身边任何一位能有如此成就,都会讲出来,但是叔叔谦卑低调,从不张扬。从他读书到工作、作为首席科学家援建阿尔巴尼亚、在莫斯科讲学、两大洋科考、论文被人使用评上院士、与袁隆平、邓家后代的友谊、婉拒科技部领导职务到反对签署巴黎气候协定,我不仅为这波澜壮阔辉煌的经历折服,更为叔叔知识分子的气节、正直和科研的严谨而感动。如果说什么家风好,我觉得叔叔就是一个表率。尽管他身高不高,体型瘦弱,但是他是我前进的榜样。时间匆匆而过,这期间我也给叔叔讲了信仰和福音,叔叔觉得自己已经没有精力去了解,但是我心里默默的祈祷,祈求上帝医治并拣选他。临回家之前我问了他一个问题:“叔叔,如果你的人生重新来过,你会有什么不同选择吗”?叔叔回复到:“我可能会减少一些时间在工作上,多陪陪孩子”。家庭是叔叔唯一的遗憾……


叔叔治疗的过程也很波折,第一次化疗效果极好,我们甚至都觉得可能要好了,结果第二次形势急转直下。不过每次跟叔叔聊疫情,聊他的治疗,他的语气都还好。五月份我写完了毕业论文那天,给叔叔电话,保姆小杨姐告诉我已经进ICU了,也可能会插管。我走在路上哭了起来,电话拿给叔叔,他说话都已经有些不清楚了,我告诉他,他是世界上最好的叔叔,谢谢他对我的关心和鼓励,他为我毕业论文完成感到高兴。我最后为他做了一个祷告,请他说阿门,我没有听清楚他是否回应,小杨姐拿过电话说叔叔累了。我请求小杨姐一定让医生尽量减轻叔叔的痛苦。回到家里,我告诉先生想去北京,他那个时候刚好陪子安奶奶在医院里打针,要连续14天,他说等打完针再说。几乎隔一天给北京去一个电话,病情也是反反复复。大哥作为家人代表到了北京,核酸检测后见到了叔叔,听他说吸痰是很残忍的,我哭着向上帝祈祷,求他降低叔叔医治的痛苦。因为病情不稳定,我也给小杨姐交代了临终关怀的事,告诉她在叔叔弥留之际怎么说。六月初叔叔就走了,走的很突然,那天晚上我问小杨姐临终的情况,她说在抢救中走的,医生不让进。那一晚我心里难过,但是也为叔叔终于解脱了感到释然,与其在病床上接受无谓但痛苦的救治,不如早一点结束。一晚上都睡不着,我总是在想,不知道叔叔有没有在我那次祷告后说阿门,哪怕是心里,有没有一点点可能被上帝接走。


毕业论文答辩完那天,我开车回家,突然想给叔叔一个电话,告诉他我毕业了,他肯定非常高兴。一想到这,我就痛哭起来,哭到看不清方向盘,停到马路边。人这一生能遇到几个真正关心你的长辈呢?那个永远鼓励我、关心我,支持我成长的叔叔,真的走了呀,再也回不来……


These days I began to write public account, also have a career plan, but no longer hear uncle's warm words. As a child who is often criticized by his father, my uncle's encouragement is very precious to me. Dear uncle, thank you, in my heart you are the best uncle in the world, your encouragement will accompany me to the road of my life...